How to find yourself fast
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When life looks easy for everyone else but you
I used to whisper, late at night, staring at the ceiling while the world slept soundly:
“Why is life so easy for everyone else?”
You know that feeling, right?
When it seems like everyone else is floating.
Like their days are silk sheets—smooth, shining, never wrinkled.
They wake up loved.
They win by accident.
They laugh in sunlit kitchens, while you’re still searching for the light switch.
And you?
You’re here, in the trenches.
Doing the work.
Trying to stay grounded, aligned, open-hearted.
Trying to keep the faith when the storm won’t let up.
You feel behind. Unseen. Maybe even cursed.
I’ve been there. Let me tell you a secret.
When everything fell apart
There was a season in my life when everything I’d built—every brick, every hope—crumbled. Not a poetic crumble. A messy, ugly, “are you kidding me?” kind of collapse.
People I loved? Gone.
Money? Evaporated.
Plans? Laughed at by the universe.
And the cruel joke?
I did everything right.
I meditated. I journaled. I forgave. I gave. I tried.
I lined up my actions with my purpose, like a good little spiritual soldier.
Still, it all dissolved.
I remember a night—late, empty, hungry.
Sitting on my kitchen floor, bills scattered like confetti at a party I wasn’t invited to.
Phone silent.
Heart shattered.
Crying the kind of tears that don’t make a sound.
The kind that squeeze your throat and leave your chest aching.
I said it out loud, to no one and everyone:
“Why me?”
The whisper that changed my life
No angels. No lightning bolts.
Just a whisper, in the silence, I almost missed it.
“This is the plan.”
I wanted to scream.
How could this be the plan?
The heartbreak, the betrayal, the loneliness, the loss.
How could this be what my soul signed up for?
But the more I sat with that question, the more I understood:
It’s easy to trust the plan when it feels like a highlight reel.
Easy to believe in “divine timing” when everything is falling into place.
But when life is a demolition site?
That’s when faith stops being a hashtag and starts being a lifeline.
The shift
So I started asking new questions.
Not “Why is this happening to me?”
But “What if this is happening for me”—even if it makes zero sense right now.
Not “How do I fix this?”
But “What is this here to carve into me?”
And slowly, the fog began to lift.
The real plan of life
Here’s what I know now:
There are two parts to the plan.
What you choose—and what chooses you.
The rituals, the dreams, the habits? They matter.
But so do the things that blindside you.
The heartbreaks, the closed doors, the missed calls, the endings you never saw coming.
All of it is still the plan.
Still sacred.
Still humming with wisdom.
Sometimes things fall apart so something deeper can take their place.
Not because you’re unworthy.
Not because you failed.
But because your soul is playing chess while your ego is stuck on checkers.
You think you’re losing.
But maybe you’re being rerouted.
You think you’re being punished.
But maybe you’re being prepared.
You think you’re stuck.
But maybe you’re being asked to be still—just long enough for the next door to appear.
The Sacred Map
There’s a map your soul holds that your mind doesn’t get to see.
It’s not a checklist.
It rarely makes sense in real time.
But when you look back?
You’ll see every ending was a sacred detour.
Every person who left made space for someone who could stay.
Every breakdown built a version of you that didn’t exist before.
Even the heartbreak had a purpose.
Even the delay had a rhythm.
Even the silence was sacred.
The Invitation
I’m not here to sugar-coat your pain.
I won’t tell you it always feels good.
But I will tell you: everything that happens is shaping who you are becoming.
You can’t always see it in the mess.
But one day, you’ll look back and say:
“That relationship taught me to honour myself.”
“That job ending showed me what I truly value.”
“That rock-bottom moment gave me my power back.”
That’s not wishful thinking.
That’s alchemy.
That’s the plan.
So Let Me Ask You
What if you believed everything—the good, the bad, the confusing, the divine—was part of a greater plan?
What if you trusted detours as directions?
Breakdowns as blessings?
Loss as sacred?
Quiet seasons as growth?
“No” as protection?
We think the plan is a straight line.
A clear “yes.”
A partner who stays.
A job that lasts.
A self that never breaks.
But the real plan?
It includes the silence.
The collapse.
The heartbreak.
The wandering.
The lostness.
The grief.
Because the real plan was never about perfect outcomes.
It was always about coming home to yourself.
So if you’re in a season that feels upside down—
If your life doesn’t look like the timeline you imagined—
If it feels like everyone else is being blessed while you’re being tested—
Come back to this.
This is the plan.
Even this.
Especially this.
Not because you failed.
Not because you’re lost.
But because your path is sacred.
Even when it isn’t pretty.
You are being rerouted.
Reshaped.
Rewritten with purpose.
Everything you do.
Everything done to you.
All of it—still sacred.
Still part of the same map.
A Reminder
Breathe.
Take the next step.
Life’s plan is unfolding—even when it doesn’t look like it is yet.
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Let me help you navigate what’s before you and let go of the past.
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